And, increasingly we have been moving away from many traditions and the religious institutions that offered both guidance on how to have a good life, and stability and comfort in times of difficulty. This is especially true of the trend away from church attendance and membership. Scandals, prejudice and a perceived lack of kindness and compassion have seriously challenged the image of the church that Jesus envisioned, which was more like a community emanating from an understanding of God as unchanging divine Love.Continue Reading
“The fantasy of happiness is sold to us every day. We live in a society that does everything in its power to eliminate sadness, sickness and all the negatives of life,” said Dr. Nima Rahmany from Maple Ridge. “And it isn’t working!”
Dr. Nima, as he is called, is a chiropractor, stress expert and world champion salsa dancer, who also specializes in emotional health. He gives workshops on emotional mastery, and his experience with the illusory expectation of happiness has led him to teach a more balanced and healthier approach to life in seminars across the Lower Mainland.
The current rash of happiness studies, the many self-help books and the movie industry, market an expectancy of “happily-ever-after” as something we should eternally and quickly expect and seek as our right. But Dr. Nima feels there is a darker underside that is not fully understood by the public and leads to stress. Giving the example of a magnet, which has two poles, a positive and a negative, he explains: “We have become so addicted to seeking pleasure and happiness – the positive side of the magnet – that we are unprepared to accept and deal with the inevitable, and negative challenges of life, which will always be there no matter how hard you try to avoid them.”
For example, the recent inclusion of grief as a mental illness in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) is a great mistake, he feels. “Instead of acknowledging our sadness, we medicate ourselves. Feeling sad has become an illness. It’s not an illness. We just haven’t learned the skills needed to cope with the inevitable curveballs of life.”…..Continue Reading